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Hey anoyone , I know that probably this is not a major issue but i really need someone to talk to about this.. i dont have a close friend i can talk to right now actually i dont think i`ve ever had  areal friend in life.Iam 22 years old single and i`ve never had aromantic relationship with any guy so far , it was always makeout sessions coz most guys wanted to have sex with me and just go so the thought of having someone to use me and leave me makes me fear getting into rlships and i`ve never found  a guy who wanted me genuinely and wanted to be with me truly.Im an introvert and i dont really connect with people or when i do i lie about who i really am inside.In the beginning of this year I started talking to this guy and he was so nice to me unlike most guys i`ve met be4 his cousin hooked me up and he`s also an introvert so we connected on some ends but he`s far from me , we talked much and i felt really attached and i thought of us as a couple or something more but a few days ago he started being distant and now were on the silent mode , i feel like texting him would be desparate of me and he wld think im soo into him of which i cant deny i like him even if weve never met but i was kinda hoping we wld and make it something more but am not sure what he relly wants or what he thinks of me.

Jambo my girlfriend is bipolar, she is very violent in the house, she is very depressed. How can i get 

I have been through so much that I have lost my sense to feel anymore. I  dont feel useful and every morning I just look forward to the day ending. I do not want to talk to anyone and I do not want to meet any new person. 

Most times I just want to die. I have distanced myself from people and I just got to a point where I dont have friends or family. 

My family consists of those kind of people who can even forget your name. Nobody cares about you. Its just like "grow up and get out and remember not to come back" 

My life right now is so lonely but with a lot of people around. People I cannot talk to. I drown in my own misery all day everyday. I dont know if there is anything left for me to try to start living again. Its been long since I felt like a human. 

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