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I can't stop masturbating. What's the remedy?

I am a twin. I have suffered constant comparison throughout my life and now at 22 i want to start life on my own. Outside sharing classes and rooms with my twin. I want to stay away from her so that i can grow on my own. 

I constantly feel as if my mom and sisters favor my twin over me because of her academic prowess and wittiness,  and it has given me anxiety disorders and esteem issues. I really just want to start life on my own. 

While my sister wants to stay home with mom i want a job outside home(we stay in nakuru). I want a job in nairobi and in finance and financial services, consultancy, investments and advisory. Kindly someone help me get my life back in  my hands. 

Thank you. 

I've been a strong Christian over a few yrs and kept off so many things that people do - drinking, partying and having those good times. But now I recently started doing them and I've realised I'm getting more real and living that way is actually  helping me come out of my cocoon and enjoy life and opportunities more. But sadly, I've slowly drawn away from church, my former friends and all those routines. I find them unreal. Definitely they can't stand me doing all these things so I'm torn between just walking away from my previous life completely and starting over a new or whatever other option. I don't know. And my gf is in that category of friends. Advise, I might just lose it. 

I have been suffering male problems for a bit of time. I am too embarrassed to buy viagra from a clinic, is there any way to buy viagra anonymously? Help

I listened to Sauti Sol song, tujiangalie. The political situation in Kenya makes me so sad. I feel hopeless every time. I am unable to get anything going because it feels like in Kenya if you don't have political connections you can't make it. Can barely get out of bed to do anything.

I feel likr im at my wits end. My exhusband has taken my sons and i cant get them back. Im an orphan and the rest of my family doesn't care. I cant live without them. They are my whole existence.  I want to die. Im planning on commiting suicide. Im done feeling this pain

I am deep in depression. I have attempted suicide several times but it didn't work. I don't see myself making it through this time round though

I keep letting this toxic person back in my life. Or maybe I am the toxic one, I am not sure. We just can't seem to get along and we just can't stay away from each other. I want to be able to walk away. I want to reclaim my happiness. I honestly can't think of the last time I was genuinely happy. Makes me feel like everyone else in his circle is better than me, but can't put half as much effort as he does with them. I'm just tired. 

I have problems too. But i think my worst parts of the journey are in the past. Either that or i i ha grown much stronger due to struggles.

Focus on the future and leave the past. But learn from it.

I hope you all make it through. Life is a maze, we just have to work through it towards our happiness. So here goes ?

  1. If it makes you feel insufficient or judged or unhappy, drop it.
  2. Peace of mind is the most valuable thing. Work towards it. In all aspects, work towards that.
  3. Live your life, try to make it better for you and the people you love. Let others live theirs. Dont die trying to impress irrelevant people.
  4. Dont rush life. Even 35 is still young and a good enough time to get your shit together. You probably have 35 more years. PROGRESS is all that matters
  5. When it comes down to it. Food, humane living condition and happiness can keep you going, learn the difference between what you need and what you want. Everything will be better, work towards it. No one is born with a curse mark ¯\_(ツ)_/¯