Am a young woman on my early 20s, stuck in life, Am an orphan, no parents, so I've been living with relatives. If you ask me what's the toughest thing in life I'll tell you is having no parents, being an orphan. My whole life I've been living with relatives, bing thrown out, you move to the next one and so forth, I've been dealing with heavy depression and stress. I am alone in this world and have no one to turn to. Its so hard to stay motivated and be in school cause I feel I have no purpose in life and I should just die. I always wonder if there are other people who've had a life like mine. Locking yourself up and crying to sleep everyday. Feeling like its not worth living.

Its just a sad life


  Published  14th Aug 2018 at 1:33 pm

Take heart

  Published  16th Aug 2018 at 12:55 pm


Please note you are not alone. Tough times don't last but tough people do. You are a tough one and you have come this far. You will make.

There's this story of the Egg, Carrot and Coffee. Each was thrown into hot water. the Egg became hard, the carrot became mushy, but the coffee made an amazing drink with great aroma. How you respond to tough times is very important. Do you become Hard like the Egg this is not good place being hard hearted. Do you become so soft and of no use this is not a good place being too soft hearted. Do you become an amazing aromatic drink. Some homework for you find out how coffee is made from tree to the coffee come.

Also every morning when you wake up wash up, wear clean clothes and get ready for the day. Look into the Mirror and say to the person you see in the Mirror I Love you. Say a short prayer Lord Jesus guide me today.

You will make it don't stress you will make it through this life.

  Published  18th Aug 2018 at 4:19 am


You are here because you have a purpose in this life and the universe wills that you be here. Take it a day at time. Enjoy the good days, get through the bad/hard days. Time is a pancea of sorts. Give it time.

  Published  18th Aug 2018 at 10:13 am

I totally feel you. I was orphaned young. Ive always felt unwanted. Im still struggling with this. Im really struggling but everyday i wakeup is a day to love myself even more. I locked out anyone who made me feel less or brought negative energy in my life. Try it

  Published  18th Aug 2018 at 3:34 pm

The fact that you can articulate how you're feeling is a wonderful start. I feel like you are the lady version of me. I was also orphaned young, lost 4 siblings out of 5. I've made bad choices before, most of which haunt me up to this day. I don't have a lot. Not even a job. A friend is currently taking care of me. I recently found out that just acknowledging that I was broken, that I needed fixing, BY ME FOR ME, has really helped me shift my perspective on life. I've started picking up the pieces. One by one. Help me pick mine and i'll help you pick yours. Even if in spirit. You are not alone. :~]

  Published  19th Aug 2018 at 9:53 am

Thankyou all for great advice, I feel so much better, may God heal us all and give us strength to take a day at time. I feel lucky knowing there are good people out there for me even if they don't know me. God bless.

  Published  19th Aug 2018 at 10:08 pm
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  Published  11th Feb 2019 at 10:27 am

My first day on Bonga and I bump on a story that I went to myself. I felt all these things that you're writing about it was tough and to be honest you have to go through a tough moment before you get to the light I share a similar story and I had to persevere through it all and I can assure you that at the moment I am independent I have my own job and everything else is unfolding the way I had planned. So my sister or brother there is only one lesson I can leave you with the power of being patient, the power of time, the power of having an end goal in mind to the extent that you don't feel your current pain. As I read your story it seems like it was me writing the same story some 5 years ago. Since you sound like a younger version of me five years ago I wanna let you know this b be patient. And I want you to tell this to yourself right now there is no one in this world who will ever understand you like yourself or your parents. And this is the main reason why you should not blame the people around you for not taking the role of your parents. It is not their fault it is not your fault. Your time will come when you will be seated in your own house looking back and appreciate the pain that you went through.

  Published  8th Jul 2020 at 12:40 am