Married for 7 years. Sole breadwinner for most of marriage. Problem is whenever spouse gets some income from temporary engagements, spouse does not contribute to household or assist with bills etc. Recently left a toxic job that payed well for a less paying job but not toxic. Overwhelmed with the financial responsibilities. Whenever, I raise it with said spouse, I get no fruitful response. At my wits end. Just needed to vent as i figure out what next
They are used to you footing all the bills that is why it is hard for them to help out.Hope you find a way out.
Spouse needs to know things are tough, sometimes you can change it up instead of drinking milk.. Drink black tea ya majani for a week in short make it hard for spouse. Even than dinner ugali and spinach for a week.
Pretending can help you see the other person sides if spouse can step up the game or not to foot for bills. If it doesn't work then you will know what next.