Bonga

I'm angry that my sister, who had ambitions and kids, died young while I, who is solo and just getting by, continues to live. I wish we could trade places.

  Published  27th Jun 2020 at 6:59 am
Margaret KaraniUSIU Clinical psychology student
Hey thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to share your thoughts and feelings . I would like to offer my condolences on the loss of your sister. Lossing a loved one is painful and it leaves one with a lot of negative feelings. Your feelings of anger are therefore valid.  You feel like you don't have a lot to show for yourself as compared to your sister. Sometimes life situations makes us compare with others who we perceive to be better than us. But the thing is we are all unique in our different ways. Feeling like switching places with your sister is a common feeling when one is going through grief. Feelings of irritability, withdrawal from people, lack of interest in things previously liked, lack of sleep and even feelings of sadness are other feelings experinced when grieving. Grief is therefore a process and there is no timeline. You can write down some of the precious memories of your sister. You can also talk to a friend or family on your feelings and thoughts regarding the death of your sister. You are more valuable than you think and you have the capacity to achieve more than you have ever imagined.

  Published  27th Jun 2020 at 11:28 am