I have a challenge and I am struggling. Last year my salary was not coming in steadily but I was able to save just enough for the holiday. So we share financial responsibility for the Christmas holiday and our tradition is we get each other gifts and for our son. But I was the only one doing the gifting. I was saving up for a laptop he borrowed me the cash promised to buy me one in before December. We are in January. I paid for all back to school stuff, I've fixed my car paid the rent and he can afford to go drink. Let me not start with how my house help did not come back and I did all the housework. Then he comes home drunk insisting on sex- give to Ceaser what belongs to Ceaser. yet he can't help drop the child to school he would rather sit and finish his movie. To top it off, I wanted to go to the church I was raised and he had the audacity to tell me I moved away from my mother so even church I must go where he goes. I'm not Catholic. Got nothing against it it's just not my church. I can't go to the bar or club alone he keeps telling me of how his aunt got aids. I am just going to dit drink a soda. My heart is low. This is emotional abuse and I don't know how to deal.
I get you. Now for him to lack money for anything else except alcohol means he's using alcohol to run away from something. He's depressed because maybe he is broke, and he is projecting his problems to you. In the end both of you may fall into a slippery path. Go to therapy together and overcome the problems before it's late.