Bonga

I am a single mum to an 11 year old boy.He has been asking who his father is and telling him that he doesnt have one doesnt work any more.His father knows of his existence but has never reached out.I dont know what to tell him so he doesnt feel rejected neither do i want to "kill" the man incase one day he reaches out.

  Published  26th Sep 2018 at 3:28 am

Hi.I can imagine that when your son was younger, this may not have been an issue to him but as he grows older, interaction with friends has made him realize that he could be missing out on something because his father is not present in his life.Sometimes this can be quite tricky as your son may not understand the circumstances that led to your separation with the father yet he has a right to know who the father is.It may be good to disclose to him the existence of his father while assuring him that at the appropriate time you will facilitate an opportunity for them to meet.This may not be easy on you but the question may keep coming up and it may create anxiety in your son which may spiral to his education.He may be feeling like he is missing out on the male figure in his life.You may consider creating an opportunity where he can interact with uncles or his friends dads on a joint activity to ease the as you think of the way forward.All the best.

Christabell

  Published  26th Sep 2018 at 6:54 pm

Let the boy know his father and don't involve the boy in any of your past 

  Published  4th Oct 2018 at 9:56 pm