Bonga

Hi, 

I am Brayn. Over the last few years I have been feeling depressed due to my low social skills and the inability to get a girlfriend. I was raised in a very strict family whereby even during my high school days, my parents were very apprehensive about making friends. Even after high school, I was not allowed to hang out with my peers. In fact, the first time I ever went out was during campus, and it was because I was living on campus. however, such occasions were rare since my parents gave me financial support enough to cover basic needs. I struggled socially especially with the opposite sex and had very few friends. After college, the situation has never improved. To make it worse, I began online writing a few years ago as I looked for a job. This has kept me confined indoors most of the time (still have'nt found a job). I am now 28 years old and the depression is getting worse that I can't even properly focus on my writing job. I keep obsessing about my poor social life and lack of sucess in interaction with the opposite sex.  can you please give me any advice. contact me on 0774255898

  Published  6th Jun 2019 at 2:33 pm

Hi, there's a saying, FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT.. Try this, write down a list of the things you enjoy n find interesting, places you enjoy visiting as well as your bucket list (things you'd like to accomplish)... Hang out in those places and strike up conversations at these places coz there's something common to talk about.... Be yourself, don't stress about finding a girlfriend just yet.work on getting to know many different people as this will help you narrow down on the important things 

  Published  10th Jun 2019 at 7:28 pm

Hey Brayn, am exactly like you (online jobs, no friends and REALLY REALLY worried about it cz am 25 and have dated 1 man in my life). My reason for slow social life is however not due to strict family but due to betrayal by some people or maybe am the betrayer here.... point is I am in the same exact position as you right now really struggling to find friends but can't cz of the nature of work and my "delicate" self to let people in. Am just disappointed at myself right now

  Published  18th Jun 2019 at 7:40 am