Bonga

I don't have friends. I don't know how to make them. I am by nature an introvert and prefer to be buried in books or to stay alone. This disturbs my family members alot since most are extroverted and outgoing. I feel out of place, like I am where I am not supposed to be. I feel as though I have something broken in me. Why am i not like everyone else, more social, more talkative? I have gotten used to being viewed at as the awkward one and odd one out that i do not put effort into meeting new people. Actually I don't like meeting new people.

  Published  23rd Sep 2018 at 2:57 pm

Me too. It's good that you recognise that this is your nature, and in fact it's good to be an introvert. You don't need to change, it's just that today's society values extroversion way above introversion, and that creates huge pressure and this feeling of belonging nowhere. But you are definitely not broken. Enjoy your books and enjoy your alone time. These things may well be where your true strengths lie. It is possible to accept yourself, even if others make you feel wrong or strange for being the way you are. As you go on, you will become better and better at ignoring those attitudes.

I'm 27 and have finally got to a point where I'm truly proud of my introversion. That's not to say it doesn't make things difficult for me sometimes. I often feel the judgement of others and I long to have more meaningful interactions rather than the surface-type chat that goes on most of the time. Just think, many of the most interesting people in history were seen as the "odd one out" at some point... What has helped me, and what I would recommend, is reading a ton of stuff online about introversion and personality types. You will find out that you are not alone, there is nothing wrong with you, and you have things to offer this world that your more talkative and outgoing family members do not.

All the best!

  Published  24th Sep 2018 at 4:42 pm

Thank you

  Published  25th Sep 2018 at 8:52 am

Can we start an introverts club? Lol. I'm not only an introvert, but an empath as well. Double the trouble.

  Published  27th Sep 2018 at 3:45 pm