Bonga

I feel trapped. As an adult living with my mum is hard. Being an only child means I'm the one to be sent around like like a small kid, my opinion doesn't matter, I think she assumes I'm stupid or something. I crave my own space soo much 😩 I can get my own place since I'm working but she makes it seems like she cannot survive without me, but I know she likes when I'm around so she can have someone pass her the remote or her phone.....it's not like she can't get these things herself but her being overweight makes her lazy to do even the simplest things. I know she can do it herself but maybe she does this to spite me and show me how worthless I am. I am socially awkward and I don't keep friendships......I just need my own space that's all. She keeps reminding me to get a child since I don't have one and I even don't have my shit together emotionally........even to maintain a relationship. My cousins all laugh at me and my situation in life. I hate them all.

  Published  30th Sep 2021 at 11:44 pm

Hey there. I am sorry for what you are going through. I think getting your own space should be a start but don't go far away, just somewhere you can check on her any time you feel like. Make this place your own. I think it will be a the first step out of the trap. First communicate with her about your intentions to leave, be honest about your feelings, tell her you need some peace of mind, but you'll always be there for her, but from a little distance. She may get angry but deep down she'll accept your desire to be your own person. Good luck.

  Published  1st Oct 2021 at 12:30 am

Thanks for the advice .I was thinking of the same thing actually. Being honest with her will be tough but I will have to. She can be overly dramatic and difficult but I will have to do it. I have realized she's just narcissistic and she emotionally manipulates me alot. I have never felt the maternal love always what I can do for her. But thanks. This is what I will do

  Published  1st Oct 2021 at 3:01 pm